Fed, not fixed.
fed
/fɛd/adjective- Having eaten. Something that wasn't a handful of cheese, taken standing at the fridge at 4pm. (Yes, that too. Start there.)
- Having your actual needs met (food, rest, movement, purpose) in an order that makes sense, by someone who noticed. Eventually including you. “She wasn't lazy. She'd been running on oat milk flat whites and other people's emergencies since 2011.”
- The opposite of running on fumes, toast and spite.
- Not to be confused with fixed, which assumes you were broken. Or fed up, which you've been, for quite some time.
- (archaic) Something you did for everyone else first. See: the entire reason this website exists.
Usage note: not a vibe, a bath, or a candle that smells of “serenity.” Those are nice. They won't get you fed.
Most support assumes you have energy, clarity, executive function and a quiet hour to implement it properly. If you had all that, you wouldn’t be here.
The FedbyClaire Method is built for late-diagnosed neurodivergent women rebuilding in real time: still tired, still overwhelmed, still perimenopausal, and still expected to function. It doesn’t ask you to become a shinier version of yourself. It helps you build a life that fits the person you are now.
The gap isn’t knowledge.
You know what needs doing. You’ve read the books, and you could probably teach the course. The problem is the bit between knowing and your body actually doing it.
That gap is neurological, not moral.
Everything here is built to close it from the doing side.
Built for a neurodivergent brain.
It isn’t adapted, and there’s no “accessible version available.” It was built for your brain from the start.
- No ten-step systems to fall off by Thursday
- Nothing that depends on remembering, motivation, or a good day
- Short, specific, one thing at a time
- Structure that sits outside your head, so you don’t have to hold it
Nervous system first.
You can’t think your way out of a state your body is in.
So the order is: settle the system, then deal with the thing, not the other way round. Calm isn’t the goal. Getting back online is.
Audio first. Which makes it PDA-friendly.
If a worksheet, a checklist or a “now try this” makes something in you dig its heels in, you’re not being difficult. That’s demand avoidance, and most support is built entirely out of demands.
Audio isn’t. You press play. You listen. You don’t fill anything in, tick anything off, or report back. Lie on the floor, do the dishes, stare into the middle distance. It meets you where you are and asks nothing in return. That’s the design, not a shortcut.
Not therapy.
This is practical support, and it doesn’t pretend to be anything else. It won’t dig through your childhood or diagnose you. It works on what’s in front of you now: capacity, structure, food, rest, movement, and getting your functions back.
If you have a therapist, this sits alongside them. If you need one, please get one, and keep this too.
What it works on
- Your capacity, honestly: what you actually have, not what you used to have
- The basics that quietly stopped: food, rest, movement
- The shame that makes every task twice as heavy
- Structure that fits your actual life
- Decisions made from self-respect, not panic
Who it’s for
Late-diagnosed (or suspected) neurodivergent women who burnt out and are rebuilding. Women whose lives didn’t go to plan. Women who are clever, self-aware, and sick of support that sounds lovely and collapses on contact with real life.
Who it isn’t for
Anyone after a Bali babe retreat, a morning routine, or someone to tell them they were fine all along.
How to start
Don’t leap into the deep end. Pick one door.
- Today is a lot → The Overwhelm Edit · $27
- Your brain won’t stop → The Spiral Edit · $27
- You want me to help 1:1 → Capacity Reset 60 min session · $99
This isn’t about fixing you. It’s about feeding what’s been running on empty.